Your wife stopped wearing her wedding ring. You’re not sure how long ago it happened but one day you looked at her hand and noticed something was missing. If she always wore the ring and suddenly her finger is bare, that’s got to be a shock. Obviously, your first reaction is curiosity and so you asked her about it right? Most wives in this position have one of a number of answers including, “I forgot to put it on today, my hand is swollen or I didn’t want to damage it.” You must use your inner instinct to truly understand what’s going on and of course, you have to watch her behavior as today turns into tomorrow and the week goes on. Although not wearing a wedding ring is often a simple and innocent oversight on the part of a wife, it can also be a sign of much marital dissatisfaction lurking deep in her heart.
There are a number of reasons why women stop wearing their wedding rings:
It doesn’t fit anymore. Sadly, for us women, weight gain is not subjective. It doesn’t all go to our hips or thighs as we claim. Hands do accumulate fat when a woman gains weight and that size 5 sparkler you gave her on your wedding day may not fit past her knuckle now. If your wife is a little curvier than she was the day you two married, this may be the culprit.
She’s incredibly active. Women who love to work out, be it running, biking or tending to the garden, often strip themselves of jewellery for comfort reasons. If your wife was often taking her wedding ring on and off, she may also be concerned about losing it. This is more common than most men realize and you can typically tell if this is the reason why the ring is missing from your wife’s finger. If she always puts it on when you two go out or when she’s just relaxing around the house, she cherishes that ring and its meaning.
She’s having an affair. This seems incredibly obvious and sadly it is. If you catch your wife without her ring on when she returns home at times, it may be because she’s hiding it in her pocket or handbag. This is often the first tangible sign of an affair and if you’ve had gnawing suspicions about how faithful she is, it is well worth investigating.
Her feelings have changed. A woman’s wedding ring is a sign of her devotion and commitment to her husband. It’s an outward sign of the silent vows that are made between a couple not only the day they marry but as their life together matures. If your wife feels less close to you or she feels there’s an emotional disconnect between you two, she may have removed the ring because it’s a painful reminder of happier times. If your wife seems dissatisfied with the marriage in general it’s very likely that’s why she isn’t wearing her wedding ring anymore.
If you do happen to notice that the absent ring has become a pattern, do speak to your wife about what she’s feeling in relation to the marriage. If it is something as innocent as her hands not accommodating the ring anymore you can have it resized or perhaps pick out a new one as an upcoming anniversary gift.
If her reasoning is more serious it’s important to address what she feels before the ring becomes a symbol of a marriage that failed. Take the missing ring as a sign that you need to converse more with your wife. It could very well be a life changing discussion for you both.