As with so many other weight loss clients, I have an individual who has an issue, which seems to be a growing epidemic in our society today. Her self-esteem is at an all-time low. She feels as if she "just exists in this world." She says, "There's nothing special about me. I have nothing to offer."
This type of thinking is not conducive to achieving or maintaining one's weight loss. In fact, it is poisonous. I asked her to describe the way she lived her life every day. Moreover, through her life, what she thought her passions were and how she felt she contributed to humanity.
She paused and thought twice about her previous statements. She began to realize that although she might be feeling down at this particular date and time, everything she does creates something that contributes, even in some small way, to the world around her.
It is my belief that every one of us is on this earth for a reason. No matter what your spiritual belief, it is important to remember that we each bring talents, individuality and values that enhance our society. However, without we acknowledge ourselves with these blessings, we will continue on a downward spiral of perpetual, negative self-talk. This negative self-talk will continue to sabotage our self-esteem, and in turn, our ability to maintain our new healthy bodies.
We all have heard the quote, "practice random kindness and senseless acts of beauty ." After reflecting on the meaning, most of us get a warm and fuzzy feeling. More importantly, if we put these simple gestures into practice, they can bring a significant positive change, not only to humankind, but also within ourselves. These positive changes towards others can redirect our energies into making the right choices for ourselves.
Welcome to the beginning of the new "you"! Think about it. What would it feel like to challenge yourself to smile at every single person you come across today? Consider how you could brighten up this world with just this small gesture of kindness. Think of how rewarding it would feel to bring this small gift to so many people, not to mention, how you are bringing light within yourself.
I would like you to take two minutes to think about something that happens in your everyday life. How it not only affects others, but also honors you. Consider all of the people around you – your significant other, your kids, your neighbors, your business collections, your fellow congregation, etc.
Remember that you have the opportunity to move mountains with one single action. You can make the simple gesture to sit down and listen to a friend or open the door for someone at a store. Another option might be to give some attention to your child who just came home from school and ask them what happened during their day.
Our society moves so fast. In fact, so fast that we forget to stop and think about our gift of life – that we live on this earth together. We have the choice to live our days with gratitude for the life around us or we can become so entrenched with our cell phones, iPods, and computers, that we forget the gifts of camaraderie.
For so long we have felt so badly about ourselves physically, that practicing these actions will create a better sense of self and in turn will increase our overall well-being. Simply, building self-esteem through these positive habits helps us make smarter choices resulting in more effective weight loss for ourselves.
Now, think about what you might be taking for granted right now. Are there those little gestures of kindness that you could be giving the world, which may make your life more special? How could these gestures make you feel better about "you" and even more determined to take good care of yourself emotionally?
Ponder the thought that what you put out in the world, comes back to you "ten fold".
Imagine if everyday, you implemented a little bit of kindness into your world. I am confident that it will turn your day around, not to mention your life. However, it is up to you to make the conscious shift to this new pattern on a daily basis.
Are you ready to make the shift in your world? Are you ready to embrace the new "you"?
Copyright © 2006 Jeff CadwellPositive Coaching